Everyone has a story to tell about their life, this is one story in my life that played a significant role in who I have become.
This story is a reflection of transformation, love, strength of character, and living a courageous life. Writing this story is is something I have been longing to do for sometime. I hope that Kim and Nichole, my two amazing daughters, find healing for themselves in reading it. I am very grateful for my experiences and for having Dave as my husband and the father of our children. In fact, I feel that our relationship has been a miracle in so many ways in my life, and in the lives of my daughters.
The story did not end when Dave ended his life sevens years after we got married. It was the beginning of a new life for Peggy, Kim and Nichole. Losing Dave was a tragedy in our lives, however he has never left our hearts. My daughters have been successful in maintaining a strong connection with their father. It is inspiring to see how they have managed to keep him present and a part of their life.
We are never given more than we can handle. I adapted that mentality and had faith that after Dave died, Kim, Nichole and I would not only survive, but we would thrive with a great life--and we have! This is not to say that we always had an easy go of it, in fact there were many challenges along the way. But what I found during those trials and challenges, was my strength and ability to face whatever came along. My daughters and I stood together and have a profound love and respect for one another. One day in one of our family meetings, we created our family mission, which we had posted on our refrigerator to keep us present to our mission. Here is what we created...
Family Mission
We respect each other
We have unconditional love for each other
We are true to ourselves and to each other
We have fun
We live in balance with our body, heart, mind and spirit
We have faith in God and trust in each other
We take care of ourselves and each other
We speak well of each other and of others around us
We reflect our mission and contribute to others
Our family unit is a safe place to be ourselves
Our environment is nurturing, clean and well managed
We live with dignity and respect
We give thanks to God for all that we have and for all that we are
~ Peggy, Kim and Nichole Scott, 1987 ~
Life goes on, and your heart can heal and learn to love again. I thank God for my faith in love, my relationship with my daughters who were there by my side reminding me of the joy of living, and most important my faith and relationship with Jesus Christ and the grace and beauty of the Holy Mother Mary. In my darkest hours and my greatest moments, Jesus has always held me with His amazing grace and enduring love. Mother Mary has been a resource of compassion and grace throughout my life. She has been the safe haven when I needed the comfort of her Spirit. I am clear that I do not walk alone in this journey called life. I was also very fortunate to have done the EST Training in 1979. Participating in the training and then on to many of the programs and courses Werner Erhard created, laid the foundation for a successful and effective life. As a result of participating I got who I am at a very deep level. Instead of engaging in my life as a victim to the past, I have been able to move forward and create a wonderful and fulfilling life for myself and my daughters. I have a blessed life!
We play a part...
This is a passage taken from my favorite book--Love Without End-Jesus Speaks
This story reflects how I feel about my partnership with the Lord. He blesses me with abundance and great life, and I play my part by taking care of and tending to my life.
"There was a farmer who had a beautiful piece of property and a wonderful farm. Though the work had been hard, his crop was abundant. Close to harvest time he was standing alongside the tractor appreciating the bountiful yield when his minister drove up and parked beside him. The kind reverend gestured and remarked, "Son, God surely has blessed you with a beautiful farm." The farmer replied, "Well, Pastor, He has indeed, and I can't tell you how many times I have given thanks for it all. But you know what? You should have seen it when He had it all to himself!"
Stepping back in time a bit, I attended Catholic school until I went into the convent at 14 years old. I had asked the nuns at my school, St. Mary's, to help me write letters for submission into the Franciscan order of nuns. I was accepted at the very young age of 14 years old where I would become a aspirant, which is the first level of the seven levels to becoming an ordained nun. I absolutely loved being at The Franciscan Sisters of the Sacred Heart Convent, however, my time there was short lived. I was there for 9 months and then I became ill with kidney infection and had to go home to recover, and in fact was hospitalized for two weeks. It was quite an emotional break for me, as I really had my heart set on being a nun. In the two months it took for my recovery, I was able to get my heart clear and my mind moving forward. The next year I registered at Mundelein High School to finish out my high school years.
Shortly after high school I applied for a job at May's Drug Store where I met Dave. He was the chief pharmacist, and was also the person I was to interview with. This begins the story of Peggy and Dave. Which I will write more about in my next post.